Did you know that an average male thinks about “sex” 50% of the time, while sex maniacs think about it at 101% of the time while other male with other priorities than that and gets some of it from time to time are considered “abnormal” because they think about it less than 50% of the day. That is what I learned from SG. And I can just imagine the smile on his face when he read this.

SG and I are what people call friends, but in a wavelength more than just ordinary. Our levels of thinking are at opposite ends making it very impossible for some to understand each other but with us, whether things are hidden behind the bush or are spanking us on the face, we always know the meaning of what one is talking about, except only if he is using an old tagalong or weird acronyms or I am misspelling words, but everything is understood.

I can also say that SG and I are into a mentor mentee relationship.  SG was the one who opened my eyes with a lot of things happening in the world that I surely don’t know about. He taught me patiently as I am a self proclaimed slow learner on certain topics especially when it comes to “life”. He is a teacher who never mocks me when I make mistake, encourage me to gulp some bitter pill of reality and praise me whenever I am making some progress.

I could not even remember when our so called relationship even started. Of all my guy (straight) friends here in manila, I consider him my closest. I “squeal” some of my angst of my work, the unfairness of life, the emptiness of my love life and my nostalgia of home comfortably to him, I even tell him my office crushes. And its not one sided. He also tells me about what happen to his day, his crush (parang high school), his plans for rest days, the movies he watched and plans to pirate, his love and “it” life and all those “did you know” stuff.

And now that the “it” is mentioned,  I often wonder why he seems to be very comfortable talking to me about things men do with women (green stuff deleted here because I am trying to keep my blog wholesome) considering my lack of experience, I am the least person who will appreciate such thing. In fact, we never even talk about anything that doesn’t concern that; he would always put that in the picture no matter what. And I, on the other hand, getting use of getting my daily dose of “it” talk whenever we meet. But ever since I switched my cell phone network provider, I am getting my hourly dose of “it” talk from him which sometimes gives me a bloody headache.

He asked me one day and I quote, “lesbian ka ba?!” and I, who was asked that before, answered him, “not because I am not doing it as often as you guys, doesn’t mean I have problems with my sexual identity. I just don’t think about it much more crave about it.” And that is the debate we often get ourselves into, he being SM (in my opinion) and I being innocent.

Though SG and I meet and talk about “it” most of the time and I am a type who is easily influenced, especially with current trends, I promised myself that I will never have PMS no matter how deliciously SG presents that deed to me. Pre Marital Sex (PMS) is something my parents taught me not to commit. I remember I asked my mom after I am done with high school, “ma, what if ill go home and im pregnant” and she said “ I will never accept you and your child” And I said “ di mo man ko gyapon matiis” and she said, “try me”. And I asked “ when will you allow me to get pregnant?” She looked at me and said, “whenever you like as long as you give me your college diploma. after that, you can sleep with any man you wish and give birth to how many children you like, but take note, you will be responsible on your actions and you alone should bear the consequences.”

Though I am done with my responsibilities to my mother after I gave her my college diploma three years ago, I still couldn’t do it. I cannot imagine myself going in bed with a guy whom I will not spend the rest of my life with, or carrying in my womb a child who will see the world without a father. No offense to some who is doing this, this is just according to my opinion.  In this world where everything is patterned to the west and as this country goes liberated with stuff that concern SEX, I want to make a difference of keeping the culture my parents taught me no matter how jaded they are which is SEX after marriage and not before it.

A friend of mine told me once that a relationship will not last without “it”, and since I haven’t been into a “relationship” yet, I could never tell. But I know a few who are in a relationship but don’t engage in PMS. It is still a choice. For me, I can accept being called weird or lesbian by other people than be called normal and disappoint my parents. And in a way, I am doing this for myself and for my future family, whenever that will come.

For the meantime, let me enjoy some daily or sometimes hourly dose of “it” talk from my SG himself... :-)

--Did you know that as I am writing this blog, 50% of male in the Philippines are either thinking about it, doing it, or watching it. MEN! --